Are you really in love ? Or do you think that you are in love ?
There is a big difference between 'Love' and 'Infatuation' . Some people can't tell the difference , thinking they are in love but really it is a deep infatuation . Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another .Love is friendship that has caught fire . It takes root and grows , one day at a time .
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity . You are excited and eager , but not genuinely happy . There are nagging doubts , unanswered questions , little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely . It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection . It is real . It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved . You are warmed by their presence , even when they are away .
Miles do not separate you . You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying .
But near or far , you know they are yours , and you can wait .
Infatuation says , "We must get married right away . I can't risk losing them ."
Love says , "Be patient . Don't panic . Plan your future with confidence ."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement . Whenever you are together , you hope it will end in intimacy .
Love is not based on sex . It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter . You must be friends before you can be lovers .
Infatuation lacks confidence . When they're away , you wonder if they're cheating . Sometimes , you check .
Love means trust . You are calm , secure and unthreatened . They feel your trust , and it makes them even more trustworthy .
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret , but love never steers you in the wrong direction .
Love is an upper . It makes you feel whole . It completes the circle . It fills the empty space in your heart .
Love is elevating . It lifts you up . It makes you look up . It makes you think up .
It makes you a better person than you were before . If you have love in your life , it can make up for a great many things you don't have . If there is no love in your life , whatever else there is has a lot less meaning . The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for .
INFATUATION
Infatuation is a feeling ; real love involves a commitment also . Infatuation is just love of emotion . Real love , though , is love of devotion . Only the emotions are affected in infatuation , but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved . Next , a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love .
Guys , have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint ?
This is infatuation ! It is based totally on physical attraction . often you don't know much in - depth about the person you so - called love . Thus , infatuation is mostly biological . Also remember , never tell a girl you love her , unless you are willing to marry her .
Then , infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless .Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and the feeling than it is in the other person .
Real love is primarily interested in the other person . It seeks to give instead of get . . Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person .
Lastly , infatuation is weakened by time and separation where REAL LOVE is strengthened by time and separation .
This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation . On the contrary , there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love .
LOVE
Now you know what is infatuation , we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love . Love is patient . The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment of expectations .
When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out , if you truly love her , you will not complain and blame her , you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out . You must react to it with patience and understanding .
Next , have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster ? Sure you have ! Love , however , is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace .
It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties .
Love is Kind
Love seeks to encourage and build up others . It respects the feelings and emotions of others . .
It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy .
You can do the following :
1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards .
2. Compliment one another . Magnify the other party's strength .
3. Listen to one another . Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important .
4. Treat one another special in public . Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others .
5. Love is Not Jealous . Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart . Love wants the best for others , but jealousy is possessive . Jealous is reflected in the childish statement , "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!" Often , one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others .
6. Love is not about bragging . Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress . Often a guy will brag to a girl , trying to impress her so that she will like him . A truly great person , however , does not need to exalt himself ! Others will exalt him .
7. Love is Not Arrogant . Love is not conceited , boastful ,cocky , or stuck-up . Love , instead , is humble and has a servant attitude . Sometimes , a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude . His demeanour implies , "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you ." Of course , this is not love.
8. Love always covers . This word cover means to pass over in silence , to keep confidential .
9. Love is patient with the faults of others . It doesn't criticise and broadcast to the world the faults of others .
Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect .
10. Love always Perseveres . Love always stands its ground and hold out . It will outlast anything . It will even love in the face of unrequited love . Real love will last though all sorts of trials , tribulations and stresses .
11. Love is Not Provoked . This means that love has a long fuse . It does not become irritated and angry . It is not easily offended .
12. Love does not seek its own . This is the heart of love . Love is other-centred rather than self- centred . Love says , "I love you , I want to give to you ." Selfishness says , "I love you , I want you !"
13. Love does not act unbecomingly . This means that love does not behave disgracefully , dishonourably or indecently . It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner . Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl , or offering her your arm when you walk together .
wronged . It doesn't remain resentful.
** Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins. **
